Befriend your children if you want to acquire love and
trust from them. Ideally, friendship is a reciprocal relationship. If you make
an easy friendly relation with kids, you will be able to understand the mental
condition of your children especially in the early development and teen years.
Developing closer friendships with your children begins with your making an
unconditional commitment to them for life.
Though some people think that treating children as
someone’s buddy does not mean anything. If your child does not treat you as
parents they will not obey or afraid of you. Parents may find it hard to
enforce rules and standards on them. They will not pay heed to them.
But, according to a preschool instructor
of South Pasadena, CA friendship between parents and children depends on a
special type of egalitarian relation. In the acquaintance of two equal-age
children, friendship means nobody is in charge and neither partner exercises
any authority over the other. But in the parents-children friendly relation
parents gladly play the role of a wall that protects their child from any kind
of danger. It is an instinct that is also present in other animals. Research
suggests that kids do better when their parents show affection and love to
their children. Show an unconditional commitment and love to your child. Commit
to them that no matter what happens you will never stop loving and supporting
them. This commitment gives them the security to be close with you because kids
know that what trouble they get into, parents are always there as a
rescuer.
Some people think that one should not burden his or her
children with their problems. But, parents can build close, relationships with
their kids and remain responsible adults. Do not hesitate
to share your problems with them but be sure that you have made an
age-appropriate narration. Gain love and empathy by doing this. Not all
friendship is based on equal status. Parents- children alliance is a type of
friendship with authority figures with warmth, trust, companionship, and
limits.
Becoming a student of your children is another lovely
process of making your children your buddy. Do not apply rules and regulations
to them. If you do not know something, confess that frankly and learn from
them. Minutely observe their likes and dislikes, strengths and weakness and try
to find out the best way to motivate them. Talk about your likes, dislikes
hobbies, and passion. Feel free to learn from them.
Modern parents are busy. But despite your tight schedule
do not forget to spend quality time with them. Try to do dinner with all family
members so that you can get a chance to spend some warm beautiful times
altogether. Before or after diner spend some relaxing time with them. Ask them
what they have done the whole day if the school time was enjoyable to them or
not. You also share your experience of the workplace with them else sharing
your experience will be one-sided. But, before sharing your office experience
just filter them because small children cannot understand everything. Share
age-appropriate problems with them.
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